You see BECOMING rich is not just about making money.

It is about developing the character qualities that will give you the ability to develop wealth. IF that is where YOU are being lead in life.


And the only way you will develop those qualities is by allowing yourself to go through the fiery furnace of character development that is the GATEWAY to your goals and dreams.


You MUST go through this furnace to get to your goals and dreams. There is NO short cut. There is no easy way out.


But what most people do is they flinch. They run away. They faint. They give up. And they make excuses.


And they look at people who have already gone through the furnace and are having successes, and mistakenly think that person had a cakewalk getting there:                                                          WRONG!!!


They do not let themselves go through the UNCOMFORTABLE process of becoming the people they need to be in order to achieve their dreams.


And so they live a life of frustration and continual lack.


And you must understand, that as long as you are alive the process never stops. You never arrive at a final destination until you are dead.'


As long as your dreams and desires drive you, the furnace will be there to develop your character.


Run away from it and it will come back. Same movie, different scene.
And each successful step develops the character in you to prepare for the next level in your development of your character and life.


Your dreams drive you, to attempt things you cannot do unless you go through the uncomfortable learning process of becoming the person you need to be to achieve your goals.


You must face your life and fully engage it. Only then will you TRULY become alive. 


You must face your FEARS and do it ANYWAY.


You see, having no money and being broke are two completely different things.
Being broke is in your mind and is permanent thing.


Not having money is in you wallet and is a temporary thing.


Even when my family did not have money, we knew we were going to make a lot of money. Even when no one was on our side or believing in our , we knew.


The problem is most people latch onto a BROKE mindset and just will NOT let it go.
Your life dreams and goals are put inside you to COMPEL you to action and in order to achieve them you must follow them into the fire that will develop you as the person who CAN accomplish those goals and dreams.


And your life starts changing the minute you start changing your thinking.
It may take you awhile before you start seeing your changed thinking transform your life, but the ONLY way you will change your life is to change how and what you think about. It just boils down to when you get sick and tired of the way things are to finally decide to make a real change in your life.
Think about this…


When your life is about over, and you are laying on your deathbed (THIS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU WHETHER YOU WANT TO THINK ABOUT IT OR NOT)…
What do you want to look back over?
A life of challenge and success
Or a life of fear and failure?
The choice is ALL YOURS. But you have to start RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE. You really have no other choice now do you?

Here are some great quotes to start you on your journey:
"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are." --Theodore Roosevelt
"Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they've got a second. Give your dreams all you've got and you'll be amazed at the energy that comes out of you." --William James
Some great quotes from Helen Keller:
"We can do anything we want if we stick to it long enough."
"Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence."


"Be of good cheer. Do not think of today's failures, but of the success that may come tomorrow. You have set yourselves a difficult task, but you will succeed if you persevere; and you will find joy in overcoming obstacles. Remember, no effort that we make to attain something beautiful is ever lost."


"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved."
"Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world."
Remember your life starts changing the minute you start changing your thinking. Your life if what you make it. You can make it a dream or mess, it is up to you.

Why Not You?

Today, many will awaken with a fresh sense of inspiration. Why not you?

Today, many will open their eyes to the beauty that surrounds them. Why not you?

   Today, many will choose to leave the ghost of yesterday behind and seize the immeasurable power of today. Why not you?

Today, many will break through the barriers of the past by looking at the blessings of the present. Why not you?

Today, for many the burden of self doubt and insecurity will be lifted by the security and confidence of empowerment. Why not you?

 Today, many will rise above their believed limitations and make contact with their powerful innate strength.Why not you?

      Today, many will choose to live in such a manner that they will be a positive role model for their children. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to free themselves from the personal imprisonment of their bad habits. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to live free of conditions and rules governing their own happiness. Why not you?

          Today, many will find abundance in simplicity. Why not you?

Today, many will be confronted by difficult moral choices and they will choose to do what is right instead of what is beneficial. Why not you?

Today, many will decide to no longer sit back with a victim mentality, but to take charge of their lives and make positive changes. Why not you?

Today, many will take the action necessary to make a difference. Why not you?

Today, many will make the commitment to be a better mother, father, son, daughter, student, teacher, worker, boss, brother, sister, & so much more. Why not you?

Those who want milk don't just sit in a field and wait for a cow to back up to them.

I love the above statement. I heard it from great leader & it has always stuck with me. It is funny but it is true. Sad to say, many people join & think that is all they need to do. There are always people hyping the 'No Work Required' business opportunity. Don't be fooled by that. There is no such thing. If you don't tell people about your business, how will they know?

'You cannot change your thoughts without changing your life. In either direction.  Fortunately, you can pick the direction.' It is common for people to think that they will attract what they want.  Unfortunately, this is not true.  You actually attract what you are.  And of course, you are what you think about.In the real world, the only thing that matters are the results that you produce and these results ultimately stem from your thinking.  You can not produce something that is not within you (seed).

Apple seeds do not produce oranges  Cows do not produce horses Every seed must produces after it own kind

Are You an Emerging Champion?

In terms of life success, there are four pretty obvious levels of accomplishment: First is the class of the current winners – those who have figured out what they what they want, and are taking focused action to attain their goals.
On the far end of the "level of accomplishment" measuring stick is the class of non-players – those who have yet realized their own potential.
But in between are two very interesting additional classes: One is the class of emerging winners – those who have grabbed onto a goal, and are beginning to take focused action to shape their own lives.
The other is the class of potential winners - folks whose beliefs are not yet in total alignment with success. They may have hit a tough bump in the road that knocked them off-course, or perhaps just need to make an adjustment to their self-concept.
 

Are you an Emerging Winner?
You already know if you are an emerging winner. You can feel the fire and excitement of pursuing what you want. And you know that the only thing that can stop you is your own beliefs. Probably you're also discovering the amazing power of networking with other winners and emerging winners. There is a reason we are judged by the company we keep – because responding to that company helps mold our own behavior and responses to life.
And chances are you are also in process of creating your own way in the world of business – or are seriously thinking of doing so. This is one of the common hallmarks of emerging winners, and is an exciting part of their path.

Are you a Potential Winner?
 
Potential winners are easily identifiable. They are always searching. They read self-help books, attend motivational seminars, and buy and listen to inspirational tapes -- believing sooner or later they will figure out how to create the life they desire.
They realize they have untapped talents and potentials, but may not have yet discovered how to convert their beliefs into actions!
Are you a potential winner? Your transition from being a potential winner to an emerging winner is along the path of action.
The most empowering thing to do is this: Break out of your comfort zone, and take action to move your life to the next level of accomplishment.
Growth involves change. And let’s face it, change is sometimes uncomfortable. Moving from the *theory* of personal transformation to the *action* of personal transformation will cause some turbulence in your life.
Just identify at least one pressing reason why you cannot just yield to your fears. Remind yourself of why you want to change. Sometimes avoidance of a undesirable negative condition can be even more powerful than longing for a positive change. Use that reason to drive yourself past your fear and doubt.

Think you're a Non-Player?
 
Do you think you're a non-player? I doubt that's true, since you would never have been attracted to this article if it were so. If you have a deep sense of restlessness and dissatisfaction with life, you are likely on the path to change and personal empowerment. That’s how it all starts when you're becoming a potential winner.
Something inside yourself knows there are possibilities out there, and is encouraging you to reach out and claim more of your potential.
Actually this is a very good sign it's time to move up into the class of the potential winners – and go to work to manifest more of who you can become.

Are You the "Motivator"

We're all aware of how important teamwork is and how an inspired team, working together toward a clearly defined goal, can accomplish tremendous results. But how do you get all co-workers to pull together and realize they are a vital link in a much bigger picture?

Remember that individuals make a team. Individual contributions add up to the greater whole. Ask for the team's ideas and suggestions and base specific goals on these. Be sure each team member understands his/her role in the overall plan.


Communicate clearly. Present information in an organized, easy-to-follow way. Make it clear; communication within the group is a two-way process. Acknowledge everyone's thoughts, ideas and fears equally. And above all, be honest.


Be a good example. Maintain firm, fair and clearly understood standards. Tackle unpleasant tasks as soon as possible. If criticism is necessary, make it constructive. Keep emotions in check.


Accept change. Discuss changes - also suggested changes - with your team thoroughly. Reassure team players that the changes are positive, clearly pointing out the benefits. Encourage all members to express their feelings about what's happening and tend to wounded egos appropriately.


Praise with specifics. Focus on performance & behavior and not on the person. Do it regularly and in a timely fasion.

Body Language Speaks Volumes

Up to 93 % of communication is non-verbal. Including tone of voice, eye movement, posture, hand gestures, facial expressions and more. The pressure of body language can especially be felt in emotional situations. Body language usually prevails over words.




The eyes communicate more that any other part of the human anatomy. Staring or gazing at others can create pressure and tension in the room. Gangs have fought over the way someone looked at them. Researcher suggests that individuals who can routinely out gaze another develop a sense of control and power over others not so inclined. Maintained eye contact can show if a person is trustworthy, sincere or caring. Shifty eyes, too much blinking can suggest deception. People with eye movements that are relaxed and comfortable yet attentive to the person they are conversing with are seen as more sincere and honest.
Eyebrow muscle draws the eyebrows down and toward the center of the face if someone is annoyed. If someone is empathetic and caring during dialogue the eyebrows will not show the annoyed facial grimace.


The smile. There are 50 or so different types of human smiles. By analyzing the movements of over 80 facial muscles involved in smiling, researchers can tell when a smile is true. Look for the crinkle in the skin at the middle, outside corner of the eyes and if it is not there, the smile is probably fake. Authentic smiles are smiles that "crest" or change rapidly from a small facial movement to a broad open expression.


Bodily cues are the most reliable of all nonverbal signals of deception. This is because a person generally has less conscious control over these than other signals.  Hand-to-face gestures and shrugs are strong markers of deception. Playing with or touching things nearby during conversations has been found to be associated with deception . Deceivers also are likely to have increased illustrator activity--quick and animated use of hands/arms during speech.
Vocal cues can predict deception. More and lengthier pauses during conversation; a lot of such sounds as "uh," "um," word repetitions; intruding sounds not part of the actual speech, less lengthy answers or explanations where they would be expected to be.


Space is important. Personal space is needed and if it is invaded intentionally and at times by oversight can cause an individual to feel uncomfortable or threatened. Studies have shown that individuals that do not respect others space are less popular and often rejected by others.


Gestures communicate. Hand signals can communicate without the use of any speech. Touching communicates. Touching can be friendly or it can be aggressive. The way a person stands reflects their level of confidence and comfort level.


When you interact socially develop your listening and observations skills. The above are a guide for looking for the clues to deception they are not fool proof.


Watch your body language. Avoid shifting eyes and head quickly during conversation when someone asks you a question. Do not look down or to the side. Look directly at the person with a sense of confidence but not overbearing or threatening in nature.

Defining The Traits Of A Successful Leader

What makes a good leader? 
For starters, leaders don't wait for other people to give them permission to do something. They just do it. Leaders accept responsibility for the choices they make in life. They don't get sucked into the "victim mentality" syndrome, which is characterized by a persistent desire for people to blame others for their poor choices. Bottom line: Leaders realize that the decisions they make are all theirs, and thus take full responsibility for any resulting failures.
In the world of business - especially in eBIZ - leadership is the defining ingredient that separates the mediocre from the superstars. It's the act of persuasion. It's getting people to see new perspectives and do things they normally wouldn't do. It's about setting your ego aside and having the passion and charisma to get people to follow you. 


Can an average person become a leader? 
Yes, most certainly. People can transform themselves and make huge strides in leadership abilities just as they do in other areas of personal development. It starts with inner self-leadership and expands outward to influence and move others around you. Leadership is about self-direction and self-control and shows in what "we do." Become the right kind of person (passionate, responsible,  believer) and others will flock right into your lap, and not until.
But, like other areas of self improvement, it's no easy task, because man's natural instinct is mediocrity. Yes, mediocrity. It would be nice if we could all become leaders by simply following a few simple steps. But the path to leadership requires finding our own way. The direction we take will differ for each of us. However, there are a few key traits we can focus on.


No Fear But Fear Itself
So what is it that keeps us from pursuing opportunities, leading others, taking action and doing what we really want to do? One word: FEAR. Fear of rejection. Fear of people. Fear of trying new things. Fear of not being perfect. Enjoying our comfort zone (average).
It's almost as if the fears we have actually begin to become like bondage. Ever feel that way? You can usually tell who lives in fear. They usually wear them on their sleeves. Ever hear people say:
"I would try that but I just don't have time."
"I would try that but I just don't have money."
The list of the doubts and fears that roll off people's lips is endless. Stand in any line with people, on the bus or at work, and listen to the idle chatter. You'll hear people's fear in their everyday conversation. "Oh, I hate working here, but the job market is just too difficult to try and find something else." If you want to be a great leader, learn to conquer your fears.


Embrace Failure
Study the history of  great legendry leader (Dr.Pawan Malhan)and you'll see lives littered with failures. It's called "failing forward fast." And it's one of the top traits of successful leaders. That's why it takes guts to be a leader. Many people are scared of failure and don't like to tackle the tough issues. (Then again, not everyone wants to be a leader, right.) It requires being decisive and a willingness to take chances. And yes, to FAIL - but to accept it, learn from it and move on.


Become A Believer
Children need to "see it" in order to believe it. Leaders believe it BEFORE they see it. Here's something to try: Try doing what you say you will do. (Remember, the odds are against you). When faced with problems and obstacles, choose to learn from the experience and turn them into an opportunities. Don't whine and complain about yesterday's defeats. (It's counter-productive and you look like a fool next to Thomas Edison). Key: Until you're able to wipe out the past mistakes from the movie projector that keeps playing in your head, you'll never be able to move forward. Leaders believe in themselves and believe in abundance.


Take Some Risks
Leaders are the ones willing to make huge sacrifices in time, money and family in order to achieve their goals. Risk is the price you pay for success. You must carry the burden and have the backbone to make decisions that are not popular. Be internally directed, not "socially fit." You'll never achieve wealth and success as long as you care what other people thing of you. Yes, leadership has a price, (risk) but it also offers tremendous rewards